dad passed away last night.
3.10.08
10:51pm
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My fave pic of the 'rents
At one time, I hoped this Blog would be something useful for those who want to understand Alzheimer's Disease better. All that can be found in posts prior to March '08. Now that Dad has passed, it's Precious Time with Mom. Mom has cancer. I leave you with this... I wish you enough.
dad, in his favorite spot
watching the world go by...
I Wish You Enough
Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport.
They had announced the departure.Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, "I love you, and wish you enough."The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom."They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated.
Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy, but she welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?"
"Yes, I have," I replied. "Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?"
"I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral," she said.
"When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?"She began to smile.
"That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and she smiled even more.
"When we said , 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them." Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting. I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.
(katmir's note: this was found on the Beliefnet website. sorry i do not know the author to credit)
They had announced the departure.Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, "I love you, and wish you enough."The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom."They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated.
Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy, but she welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?"
"Yes, I have," I replied. "Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?"
"I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral," she said.
"When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?"She began to smile.
"That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone." She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and she smiled even more.
"When we said , 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them." Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting. I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.
(katmir's note: this was found on the Beliefnet website. sorry i do not know the author to credit)
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- hmm. ok-- i was a caregiver for both my parents... now, for only my mom as dad has passed. when these duties are done, who knows. i need a "real" job and am working on that effort.
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6 comments:
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say, this is such a shock. My heart breaks for you.
I am so sorry. I wish I was around your blog more so I could say much more to comfort you. I know how awful you must feel. Just know he loved you so much. I would also hope that you don't stop blogging. Your journey is NOT over, trust me. Maybe I and the rest of us can be of some support to you? Just take care of yourself. *hugggs* I will think and pray for you in the next weeks.
I am so sorry to hear that your father passed. You and your family are in my thougths and prayers.
So sorry for you loss. (posted over on the alz boards too...then checked out your blog) What a beautiful blog. I've just spent the last hour or so reading through it. My favorite post was Christmas Day.
It's a fitting legacy to your journey with AD. I'm sure that many caregivers have been inspired by it, and many more will gain insight from it. Thank you.
I have kept a diary for the last two years, and might transfer it to blog form myself. Who knows what piece of information or insight might help another caregiver in my position. Thank you for the inspiration. And take care of yourself.
*hugs*
Kathie, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a feeling after reading your recent posts, but, wow, we're just never ready for this are we? Praying for you all at this time. ((HUGS)) to you, and please share those hugs with your Mom! Please keep in touch. Thinking of you.
I hope you are doing alright. I am thinking of you.
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