the day started out in hilarity.... getting mom out of bed and walking to the potty, she said she was gonna lose her pants, but not for a moment did i believe it would really happen-- uh huh, yeppers! down go her soaking wet overnights taking the pants down, too! we stood there and laughed until tears came down our faces.... when we regained composure, i took 'em all the way off and escorted my naked from the waist down mama to the bathroom.... where we broke down again and laughed our patooties off!
as with all things good, not shortly thereafter mom's mood turned south. it wasn't over any particular thing.... as i think back tho, it correlated with dad starting his day with 20 questions. i'm sure the reality came rushing back to her head-- coupled with her own medical issues which take away her independence.
occupational therapy came today for a good couple of hours and that was good for mom.... yet it sent dad scurrying to his room. this is gonna be interesting-- we've got 3 months minimum of house invasions... nurse 1x/week, PT 3x/week and OT 3x/week.
lord, it's all you. you know all our trials. we have faith in you and your timing. amen.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Friday, August 31, 2007
TGIF 8/31/07
so back to normal again... sort of.
mom wanted to get to her office and get the mail so we prepared early to get that done. she had a good night's rest so things went smoothly.
dad awoke several times last night-- when he peeked his head out the door early, i saw very tired eyes. he went back to bed for a short while, dressed (yes, shorts on backward again and added another shirt to the mix) and came out for breakfast. he got thru everything alright-- the morning show was on for distraction above anything else (mom wouldn't give up the paper), then went back to bed again.
i hurried to the grocery-- needed to beat the holiday rush. got home in time for mom to be completely pissed off that she HAD to get to work right now! miffed, i knew it was best to stay silent... put the necessary stuff away then put her shoes on and said "ready?" grabbed dad-- who had gotten up again and we ran mom and sasha to the office. the ride over was rather quiet until mom said "i'm the one who told you to go to the grocery when you did. i should have told you to wait to go shopping until you took me to work."
now miffed even more, i again stayed quiet. but in my lil head i was thinking.... please don't say one more word! please don't say one more word!
if you're not following me-- the jist of what mom meant was she's first... above anything or anyone else. and she has no problem with my taking dad to the grocery store or my leaving him alone while i go to the grocery. neither, by the way, are on my list of things to do.
dad remains sleepy today-- and it's gorgeous outside; such a bummer for him. he's confused with the home health services the hospital ordered for mom... more things for him to understand at a time where understanding isn't coming easily. the nurse came by this afternoon and dad made a beeline to another room! we talked for awhile just a bit ago and i'm trying to answer his questions simply. i think he gets it for now-- at least the questions stopped.
i'm fearful our days have now changed for the long-term... and he will miss our jumping in the car on a whim doing what he wanted to do. i can almost see sadness in his eyes when he gets that mom will be here more often and there will be people coming in to help her now. just another freedom gone. now we must plan and coordinate everything.... and he's losing me as his only outlet as i've gained mom as another patient.
mom wanted to get to her office and get the mail so we prepared early to get that done. she had a good night's rest so things went smoothly.
dad awoke several times last night-- when he peeked his head out the door early, i saw very tired eyes. he went back to bed for a short while, dressed (yes, shorts on backward again and added another shirt to the mix) and came out for breakfast. he got thru everything alright-- the morning show was on for distraction above anything else (mom wouldn't give up the paper), then went back to bed again.
i hurried to the grocery-- needed to beat the holiday rush. got home in time for mom to be completely pissed off that she HAD to get to work right now! miffed, i knew it was best to stay silent... put the necessary stuff away then put her shoes on and said "ready?" grabbed dad-- who had gotten up again and we ran mom and sasha to the office. the ride over was rather quiet until mom said "i'm the one who told you to go to the grocery when you did. i should have told you to wait to go shopping until you took me to work."
now miffed even more, i again stayed quiet. but in my lil head i was thinking.... please don't say one more word! please don't say one more word!
if you're not following me-- the jist of what mom meant was she's first... above anything or anyone else. and she has no problem with my taking dad to the grocery store or my leaving him alone while i go to the grocery. neither, by the way, are on my list of things to do.
dad remains sleepy today-- and it's gorgeous outside; such a bummer for him. he's confused with the home health services the hospital ordered for mom... more things for him to understand at a time where understanding isn't coming easily. the nurse came by this afternoon and dad made a beeline to another room! we talked for awhile just a bit ago and i'm trying to answer his questions simply. i think he gets it for now-- at least the questions stopped.
i'm fearful our days have now changed for the long-term... and he will miss our jumping in the car on a whim doing what he wanted to do. i can almost see sadness in his eyes when he gets that mom will be here more often and there will be people coming in to help her now. just another freedom gone. now we must plan and coordinate everything.... and he's losing me as his only outlet as i've gained mom as another patient.
Thursday, August 30, 2007
thursday, 8/30/07 (i think)
this will be brief!
mom's home from the hospital. PT starts tomorrow here at home. dad's so happy mom is home-- he was a real trooper today; we had a long wait for mom's release. i'm so happy brother is home from his trip (and mom is home and dad is happy)... but let's get back to me for a sec. (sorry! i have no guilt for saying that!) brother arrives within the hour.... course i'll be back later tonight for awhile, but for a few hours, i'll unlock my house and introduce myself to the pups and the fam.
mom's home from the hospital. PT starts tomorrow here at home. dad's so happy mom is home-- he was a real trooper today; we had a long wait for mom's release. i'm so happy brother is home from his trip (and mom is home and dad is happy)... but let's get back to me for a sec. (sorry! i have no guilt for saying that!) brother arrives within the hour.... course i'll be back later tonight for awhile, but for a few hours, i'll unlock my house and introduce myself to the pups and the fam.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
wednesday, 8/29/07
yesterday was a long day for everyone!
dad and sasha hung out here at home with a friend from church. i was unable to make phone calls from the hospital due to cell "bar" issues-- but i wouldn't have been able to anyway because surgery was delayed so long there was no reason to worry everyone about that alone.
mom came out of surgery fine and i was able to speak with her around 11:45pm last night. she had just gotten out of recovery and into her room. although it was a relief to hear her voice, she wasn't yet with it and our conversation lasted only about a minute.
dad was relieved to find my note that i was here with him. he came out around 10:30pm and we chatted and updated each other. thankfully he was able to sleep better afterward-- mom had been heavy on his mind all day.
i called the hospital this morning and spoke with mom again. -- she's baaaack!! cranky and angry and hurting. no amount of support gave her happiness. and poor dad... i put him on the phone with her so he could say hello and she hung up on him. lord help us!
dad and i will hang here and have our normal day until mom calls and tells us she's ready for our visit-- if the call ever comes in.
7:30pm update.
the call came in and dad, oldest daughter and i went to visit mom. she's having a blood transfusion--right there in her room!! blew my lil mind when i saw what was happening. she's doing fine but needed the blood.
mom said she's been visited by everyone under the sun today-- interns, doctors, nurses, family, our pastor. she'd had enough by 5-something and we came home. my brother returns home from his trip today and called to see if it was a good idea to go see mom.... i had already asked mom that question during our visit and she said- "no!! tomorrow!!" brother understood and was ready to get home to his wife anyway.
the other exciting news was that the doc had to break her shoulder in order to properly repair the humerus and nerves in her arm. incredible!! i'm so glad she was already asleep and didn't know anything about that until this morning. ok-- i'm also glad i didn't know about that last night. the cliffnotes from the doc was enough for one day.
dad's exhausted-- he had a little snack and now off to his bedroom for the night. i smelled a bit of "an accident" so i'll sneak back there when i know he's asleep and quietly clean things up a bit for him. he's so overwhelmed..... my gawd, this is crazy!!
our pastor asked how i was as he was standing next to the elevator ready to go down.......
dad and sasha hung out here at home with a friend from church. i was unable to make phone calls from the hospital due to cell "bar" issues-- but i wouldn't have been able to anyway because surgery was delayed so long there was no reason to worry everyone about that alone.
mom came out of surgery fine and i was able to speak with her around 11:45pm last night. she had just gotten out of recovery and into her room. although it was a relief to hear her voice, she wasn't yet with it and our conversation lasted only about a minute.
dad was relieved to find my note that i was here with him. he came out around 10:30pm and we chatted and updated each other. thankfully he was able to sleep better afterward-- mom had been heavy on his mind all day.
i called the hospital this morning and spoke with mom again. -- she's baaaack!! cranky and angry and hurting. no amount of support gave her happiness. and poor dad... i put him on the phone with her so he could say hello and she hung up on him. lord help us!
dad and i will hang here and have our normal day until mom calls and tells us she's ready for our visit-- if the call ever comes in.
7:30pm update.
the call came in and dad, oldest daughter and i went to visit mom. she's having a blood transfusion--right there in her room!! blew my lil mind when i saw what was happening. she's doing fine but needed the blood.
mom said she's been visited by everyone under the sun today-- interns, doctors, nurses, family, our pastor. she'd had enough by 5-something and we came home. my brother returns home from his trip today and called to see if it was a good idea to go see mom.... i had already asked mom that question during our visit and she said- "no!! tomorrow!!" brother understood and was ready to get home to his wife anyway.
the other exciting news was that the doc had to break her shoulder in order to properly repair the humerus and nerves in her arm. incredible!! i'm so glad she was already asleep and didn't know anything about that until this morning. ok-- i'm also glad i didn't know about that last night. the cliffnotes from the doc was enough for one day.
dad's exhausted-- he had a little snack and now off to his bedroom for the night. i smelled a bit of "an accident" so i'll sneak back there when i know he's asleep and quietly clean things up a bit for him. he's so overwhelmed..... my gawd, this is crazy!!
our pastor asked how i was as he was standing next to the elevator ready to go down.......
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
something to think about
this was on a forum i'm so fortunate to have found... my heartfelt thanks to "mum" for sharing.
Be gentle with those in your care.
[-© 1999 Brenda Race-]
Did you ever wake up feeling confused and out of place?
It's not a feeling that is very nice.
Not knowing where you are or what day it would be.
Struggling with your thoughts...trying to see.
Try to imagine that feeling.....never going away.
Trying to find your place every single day.
Trying so hard to remember why and the only answer you get is a sigh.
Daylight is here and it's not so bad but then.......why oh why are you so sad?
No one around you seems to know.
They don't seem to know you have places to go.
If only you could find some face you knew.
Just what would you do if this happens to you?
Step into my shoes for only a day Perhaps you will know why I run away.
What would you do if you could no longer tie your shoe.
And when it's time to dress you don't know what to do.
What if you didn't know when or how to shower,
A task so great that perhaps you too would cower.
If I strike out and seem to be mean Perhaps it is over things that can't be seen.
Step into my shoes for only a day.
Maybe then you will see why I act this way.
So please remember as you care for me today.
To treat me with kindness and love in every way.
Be patient and tender as you guide me along my way.
Step into my shoes for only a day.
Be gentle with those in your care.
[-© 1999 Brenda Race-]
Did you ever wake up feeling confused and out of place?
It's not a feeling that is very nice.
Not knowing where you are or what day it would be.
Struggling with your thoughts...trying to see.
Try to imagine that feeling.....never going away.
Trying to find your place every single day.
Trying so hard to remember why and the only answer you get is a sigh.
Daylight is here and it's not so bad but then.......why oh why are you so sad?
No one around you seems to know.
They don't seem to know you have places to go.
If only you could find some face you knew.
Just what would you do if this happens to you?
Step into my shoes for only a day Perhaps you will know why I run away.
What would you do if you could no longer tie your shoe.
And when it's time to dress you don't know what to do.
What if you didn't know when or how to shower,
A task so great that perhaps you too would cower.
If I strike out and seem to be mean Perhaps it is over things that can't be seen.
Step into my shoes for only a day.
Maybe then you will see why I act this way.
So please remember as you care for me today.
To treat me with kindness and love in every way.
Be patient and tender as you guide me along my way.
Step into my shoes for only a day.
Monday, August 27, 2007
monday, 8/27/07
nothing new... just busy preparing the house and everything for mom's surgery tomorrow.
everyone is having a good day. our beautiful weather is allowing dad to sit in his favorite spot!! wahoo! how can we go from a nonsense day to one that's coherant.... wicked disease-- it appears to be messing with MY MIND. :)
everyone is having a good day. our beautiful weather is allowing dad to sit in his favorite spot!! wahoo! how can we go from a nonsense day to one that's coherant.... wicked disease-- it appears to be messing with MY MIND. :)
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